We interrupt this family to bring you cancer. We interrupt this life to bring you treatment. We interrupt anything to fight for everything. That’s how it felt in the two years I spent fighting my brothers cancer with him. Hospitals, crash course anatomy, blood drives, familiar elevators, unfamiliar transplants, anxiety lows, happiness highs, hope, and hospice. To this day, I can close my eyes and tell you every triumph and turn in the journey. I can also tell you every prayer. I think the part that still stands out to me, the part that still powers my soul, is the way we all came together for another lamb in the thicket. The shepherd included.
One of the most touching moments I recall of one lamb to another was in the second week of Steve’s cancer. He’d had surgery that morning to place a central line in his chest so the vast regiment of meds and chemo could be administered with easy access through that line. His platelets were very low, a condition that resulted in very runny blood, and he was not yet steady on his feet. As life would have it in the most inopportune time, he needed to stand and use a plastic urinal. The nurses took advantage to refresh bed sheets and washcloths and I took advantage of the kleenex box. As he sat on the edge of his bed, his wife gently put her hands beneath his underarms to balance him. All of a sudden as he stood up, Steve’s central line site began to leak and drain blood all down the front of him. The low platelets were keeping his blood from clotting. His wife didn’t shrink to getting it on her clothing, she drew in closer and softly spoke some words that still sound out in my heart today. “Oh I can hug you, you’re standing up, I haven’t been able to hug you for a couple weeks!” With that, she held on to balance him, blood dripping between them to the floor and all over their clothes, and the two of them standing there hugging cheek to cheek as she stroked the back of his head. I remember thinking how loving it was her very first thought was seizing awareness and moments to hug him. There was no fear of germs, no rush to clean up, and no worry for blood. The nurses stopped what they were doing, I stopped having any kleenex left. There was a man and wife hugging in the most humble of circumstances with compassion dripping between them, she hugging, he depending, and both loving. There was a lamb and a lamb helping each other out of the thicket. I didn’t know if it was more moving to watch the lambs or more meaningful to feel the shepherd.
In a changing world with so much coming unhinged, I love the stories of lambs coming together to rescue. I love the compassion of lambs coming together for refuge. But most of all, I love the hope of seizing awareness and moments to stand together and hug, Jesus blood dripping between us, Jesus healing flowing among us, Jesus love gushing around us as we not only live lamb to lamb, but live humbly pulling each other out of the thickets. Our shepherd included. Him loving. Us depending. Both waiting to see each other cheek to cheek.
“This is my commandment : Love each other in the same way I have loved you.” John 15:12
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.” Colossians 3:12
